Clinical research provides a growing body of scientific evidence that having a child can cause psychological harm to some women. "Women who report negative after-effects from childbirth know exactly what their problem is," observed psychologist Wanda Franz, Ph.D., in a March 1989 congressional hearing on the impact of pregnancy, labor and the never-ending care and support of a whining, selfish and spoiled child. "They report horrible nightmares of children calling them drunk from house parties, using up all of their hard-earned resources and time," Franz told the Congressional panel. "When they are reminded of the time they first got pregnant," Franz testified, "the women re-experienced it with terrible psychological pain ... They feel nervous and upset (that is might happen again) because they took on at the most natural and potentially harmful of human activities -- the role of being a mother."[106]
The emergence of young motherhood and unplanned pregnancies, even those in a well-maintained marriage, poses a new possibly more devastating psychological threat. Unlike taking the time to get to know one’s self, develop interests and devote one’s time to causes outside of their own desire to buy “cute baby clothes”, women who either choose or happen to become pregnant are not fully aware of the nagging, incessant crying and, some dare say, abuse that any given parent might experience. “I just thought I wanted a cute, cuddly little baby”, laments Sarah Rilie, mother of three children ages 2, 7 and 13. “I didn’t know my life would turn into a never-ending circus of poopie pants, temper tantrums, and expensive clothing bills-all to the soundtrack of Baby Einstein or Panic! At the Disco.”
Sarah also warns of the effect the pregnancies have had on her relationship to her once-loving husband, Jerry. “We used to be so involved in the local culture and music scene of our town. The weekend meant seeing the best local show, catching a new thriller at the Cineplex or just snuggling at home in our quite house. These days, the only culture I’m exposed to is through Oprah (if I’m lucky enough to change the channel from Dora the Explorer-she’s on at the same time).”
So traumatic is this for some women that both patients and researchers involved in these studies have recommended that women unprepared for the experience of giving up their entire social lives reconsider the pregnancy in the first place.
“I just wish I could do it all over, maybe wait about 10 years to experience the globe. I mean, I’ve never ever been out of the
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Having children is suicide. You virtually end all that is your OWN life and commit it to your child. If you don't, you aren't being a proper parent. And guess what? They won't fully appreciate the fact that you sacrificed your life, just the opposite. They will hate and resent your efforts throughout their life. Enjoy....
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